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Does love exist?
JohnnyOnTheSpot
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in Zocalo v2.0
I say no, I think the world is divided between whose got money and who doesn't. And who can scream the loudest.
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Kinda sad actually, but there are things I enjoy.
However, I think that the world of today have gotten love confused with other, physical urges, and is why so many relationships are faltering "I don't love him/her anymore" most often means "I have physical urges towards other people".
Love isn't "I wanna bang that into next week", love is "I would do anything for you".
It's a decision more than an emotion. You make a concious decision to love someone, and serve them. True love is when that person makes the concious decision to love you in return. You serving them, they serving you. Then you really have something special.
Meanwhile shes like stalking you on myspace, and Meetup.com...whose more psychotic?
That doesn't sound like it was a very healthly relationship to start with. At this point it is likely irrecoverably damaged and talking with her would only further the hurt, not sooth it.
Here's my advice...stop looking for love or more accurately, stop looking for recognition/acceptence from the opposite sex.
Learn how to be comfortable with yourself, to enjoy yourself. Once you have that, then you'll have a much easier time regonizing love when it comes your way.
I went though a period in college where I couldn't seem to find anyone, no dates nothing, and trying to "pursue" a girl only resulted in her moving farther away. I finally got to the point where I told myself:
[i]Stop worrying about it.
Just enjoy yourself, enjoy being single.
Do not approach each new female you meet as a potential date.
Just be and enjoy yourself.[/i]
And it was a very sort time later I met the love of my life, my wife Christina, whom I am in just as in love with after 9 years of marriage as I was in the period shortly after we first met.
Jake
Worf
So, love does exist, but is it worth looking for? Definitely not worth dying for, I'd imagine.
Go back and read what I wrote, I did not say you shouldn't care, but to stop worrying about it, and that is different.
Be comfortable with yourself, that's the most important part.
Jake
You'll find if you care too much about what goes on around you the less you'll have time for yourself. Regardless if your actually ugly or not, do something about it, shower, shave, use your knowledge to impress those around you. Spiritone can talk about Magnetic Resonance Imaging machines, there must be something you can talk about with someone of the opposite sex. Always remember though the opposite sex is far far more complex of a character!
Jake
I find myself wishing for the company of that 'someone' but when anything comes along I find myself wishing I was on my own again. Not the best way to look for relatioships
Worf
The world is indeed full of peril, and in it there are many dark places; but still there is much that is fair; and though in all lands love is now mingled with grief, it grows perhaps the greater.
— J.R.R. Tolkien, The Fellowship of the Ring
And why haven't the girls posted?
Yes
Here is an Esquire article about a guy who was attached to a brain scanner to see weather he preferred Angelina Jolie over his wife. Well written and funny.;)
[url]http://www.esquire.com/features/mri-of-love-0609[/url]
Enjoy !!!!
I am with JOTS and Kevan its all Y all the time :laugh: (OK with a bit of X).:D
We need to add some XX chromosome comments.
We're being brought up to expect the magical Disney-joyride where everything's perfect. And we can even screw Disney, it seems to be just as confusing to some when they're unable to recognise actual reality from the perfect, 'simulation' world that the media tries to push on us with commercials, ads, appearance ideals and television. Let's face it, we're not perfect, and if you want the constant high, you need drugs, not a social human relationship. :)
Some very good, accurate comments higher up in the thread. :) Have to agree with at least Freejack and A2597.
My addition to the conversation would be to keep an open mind. It's hard to believe and very easy to put down as absurd, but if you give people the chance, it sometimes happens that you find yourself feeling for someone that you never would've imagined a possible match for yourself. If you have the chance, go down that road, at least once. It's an eye-opener. Doesn't necessarily make your life easier, but definitely more interesting.
And with the world... yeah, it's gotten cynical. In the grand scheme of things, there is very little love around. But then there are those little people doing little things that count. :)
In the last 100 years technology and societal structures have allowed an individual to survive without the division of labor marriage offers. This means now the primary reason for marriage has now shifted to love and procreation. And in that we've become far more picky about who our partners are since we want actual love and not just survival.
Jake
In the last 100 years technology and societal structures have allowed an individual to survive without the division of labor marriage offers. This means now the primary reason for marriage has now shifted to love and procreation. And in that we've become far more picky about who our partners are since we want actual love and not just survival.
Jake[/QUOTE]
In our society and most western nations yes, but in other continents this does not hold true.
@Psi-Killer 5,000 Children I thought it was 250? But in my case that would make me a billionaire with the dependents clause for disability. lol