[QUOTE][i]Originally posted by The Cabl3 Guy [/i]
[B]Dude if you know love than you will stick with that person through thick and thin. I FOR ONE SUPPORT YOU PHI!
YES THE CHASTITY BELT MUST BE BROKEN! [/B][/QUOTE]
Even when that person stabs you in the back?
I have been trying to protect her, saving her dignity and so forth. Don't ask me to support her in betrayal though.
[QUOTE][i]Originally posted by PSI-KILLER [/i]
[B]Amazing that I was never aware of these things. I still can't believe their was a female on this board. [/B][/QUOTE]
There have been at least four active individuals with two X chromosomes posting here over the years. Some less vocal about their gender than others.
On one hand it is sad, Phi is a deeply loved personality on this board, plus she provided us with some seriously needed female balance.
However this community is small enough that in the short run, its best if one went to lurker status, and considering events, Worf needs the virtual space and familiarity of old haunts and old virtual friends more for now.
[QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Sanfam [/i]
[B]There have been at least four active individuals with two X chromosomes posting here over the years. Some less vocal about their gender than others. [/B][/QUOTE]
Probably because they want us to value their opinions abstractly of putting them in a gender framework.
That being said, one of em needs to step forward. Cause I have a sneaking suspicion without a designated house mom to keep us all in line were soon gonna degenerate into jokes about belching and farting ;)
Speaking of keeping on posting and talking to us...
How's SamuelK?
Haven't heard from that fine upstanding gentleman in a while...
;)
Biggles<font color=#AAFFAA>The Man Without a Face</font>
[QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Tyvar [/i]
[B]That being said, one of em needs to step forward. Cause I have a sneaking suspicion without a designated house mom to keep us all in line were soon gonna degenerate into jokes about belching and farting ;) [/B][/QUOTE]
I still feel like I have lost an important part of my life and I will do for some time.
Bobo: You mean history between me and Phi or...the other?
Phi and I worked extremely well, we knew how to communicate with each other and that is important. We never...ever had a single arguement.
If we disagreed about something, we would talk through it until we got to a solution.
I enjoyed taking care of her when she needed it and I was glad of her when I needed it.
We both enjoyed doing the same things together, they made us happy. Playing games, making up stories, talking about film ideas, going to places, watching movies or B5...
Like I said in the post, I regret not being able to be there to help her through, if I had, maybe things would have gone differently.
Phi was very important to me, I loved her without question and I would have gladly given my life for hers.
I am disapointed that things couldn't have worked the way we had planned.
Worf
ShadowDancerWhen I say, "Why aye, gadgie," in my heart I say, "Och aye, laddie."London, UK
i seem to remember someone saying to me once: "life is what happens while we make plans"
at the moment the events are all too close to you, but give it a few weeks at least and things may become clearer. after my last gf i felt much the same as you do now, but after a while i found new things to interest me and take my mind off it all
[QUOTE][i]Originally posted by JackN [/i]
[B]Well that certainly qualifies as the WTF? moment of the year...
:confused: [/B][/QUOTE]
Isn't it nice that it's the one time when that sort of comment is apt? Now, in a couple of weeks, if you call something the "WTF? moment of the year," folks will think you're talking out of your butt. But now... now, you can actually say with authority that this is the top bizarre, confusing event of the year.
Here's my opinion, And remember, i dont really KNOW either of you, So please dont feel that i'm defending Phi or her actions, or attacking you or your actions, i'm just posting my opinion from what i've read.
Your comments seem less of a true feeling, than the bitter retort of a jilted lover, I dont know if you've heard of the stages of grief (some say 7 stages, other 5) but at the moment you seem to be smack dab in the middle of stage 2, anger/resentment
My advice, dont post any more blame filled posts in your blog, i can tell you from experience that its going to do 2 things, 1, if she reads them, make her wonder why she was ever with you in the first place, 2, make you angry as you write them, and 3, once the hurt goes away, make you upset/depressed that you said the things you did,
None of that is good for either of you.
Again, not really knowing either of you, please dont see this as any type of personal attack or anything of the like, i've just found that sometimes, the only way to face things like this, is to have someone show you point blank what they think is going on.
and believe me, i've been there personally. Best advice i can give, as hard as it may be, dont dwell on it, Go out, have a drink with a mate, do something you enjoy, dont let anger fester, it'll just make things worse in the end.
Hope some of this made the slightest bit of sense.
[QUOTE][i]Originally posted by WORF [/i]
[B]I still feel like I have lost an important part of my life and I will do for some time.
[/B][/QUOTE]
Worf: I know that feeling. When I got dumped by my last serious gf, it was as if the whole world had gone black and white. I had feelings that she didnt have, so it felt like she had died, in a sense, for me, she had. I was dealing with a loss..
Some days, I still do. I still love her (its been three years soon), and I cant tell you the feelings of loss will go over completely, but at least they dont hurt anymore.
Anyway. Good luck. Its good to have things to do. Even though they might not feel as meaningful anymore.
I did wonder...if perhaps these thoughts are an inability to accept rejection.
But on the other hand, I have seen how other people have reacted to the news.
I don't feel bitter, or angry and I don't feel like I'm trying to blame it on anything. I'm just trying to understand things, because it still doesn't quite make sense to me. I am trying to look at the situation carefully and not let my obvious feelings get in the way.
Why? Because sooner or later, I will have another relationship with someone and it would be good to know some of the warning signs to look for.
I'm trying to explain my thoughts as clearly as I can but...it's difficult sometimes.
I don't think I will make any more posts about it though, anything else I write will be kept to myself.
Thankyou everyone for your support, it has been difficult to get through and I know I'm not out of it yet.
Comments
Mein Gott! Talk about life throwing you a curveball.
I could easily be mistaken, since I can't keep tabs on the who's dating & whose hose of the forum, but still... whew.
This friend of her's wouldn't happen to be another woman, would it? :D This just for Worf's 'insane for obvious reasons' -comment.
As far as I am aware, there was nothing wrong with our relationship even the day before, so yeah I didn't do anything.
I thought people knew we were a couple?
Anyway, that is why she won't be back.
Worf
at least you can count on us for support!
YES THE CHASTITY BELT MUST BE BROKEN!
Fuck 'em I say.. heh.
Good nite.
[B]Dude if you know love than you will stick with that person through thick and thin. I FOR ONE SUPPORT YOU PHI!
YES THE CHASTITY BELT MUST BE BROKEN! [/B][/QUOTE]
Even when that person stabs you in the back?
I have been trying to protect her, saving her dignity and so forth. Don't ask me to support her in betrayal though.
Worf
[B]It is true, Phi was my girlfriend until this happened...
As far as I am aware, there was nothing wrong with our relationship even the day before, so yeah I didn't do anything.
I thought people knew we were a couple?
Anyway, that is why she won't be back.
Worf [/B][/QUOTE]
Ahh, i knew that you guys had been a couple at one point, but didnt realise that you were still a couple until this,
sorry bout that mate,
Worf
:confused:
Worf
[B]Amazing that I was never aware of these things. I still can't believe their was a female on this board. [/B][/QUOTE]
There have been at least four active individuals with two X chromosomes posting here over the years. Some less vocal about their gender than others.
However this community is small enough that in the short run, its best if one went to lurker status, and considering events, Worf needs the virtual space and familiarity of old haunts and old virtual friends more for now.
[B]There have been at least four active individuals with two X chromosomes posting here over the years. Some less vocal about their gender than others. [/B][/QUOTE]
Probably because they want us to value their opinions abstractly of putting them in a gender framework.
That being said, one of em needs to step forward. Cause I have a sneaking suspicion without a designated house mom to keep us all in line were soon gonna degenerate into jokes about belching and farting ;)
...I'm sorry... What'd you say?
:p
I hope we can provide some long term comfort, thought there will probably be some hard times ahead. Keep on posting and talking to us.
As for Phi, I can only wish her the best, and hope that what she's found is real and permanent.
How's SamuelK?
Haven't heard from that fine upstanding gentleman in a while...
;)
[B]That being said, one of em needs to step forward. Cause I have a sneaking suspicion without a designated house mom to keep us all in line were soon gonna degenerate into jokes about belching and farting ;) [/B][/QUOTE]
Bleching!
Bobo: You mean history between me and Phi or...the other?
Phi and I worked extremely well, we knew how to communicate with each other and that is important. We never...ever had a single arguement.
If we disagreed about something, we would talk through it until we got to a solution.
I enjoyed taking care of her when she needed it and I was glad of her when I needed it.
We both enjoyed doing the same things together, they made us happy. Playing games, making up stories, talking about film ideas, going to places, watching movies or B5...
Like I said in the post, I regret not being able to be there to help her through, if I had, maybe things would have gone differently.
Phi was very important to me, I loved her without question and I would have gladly given my life for hers.
I am disapointed that things couldn't have worked the way we had planned.
Worf
at the moment the events are all too close to you, but give it a few weeks at least and things may become clearer. after my last gf i felt much the same as you do now, but after a while i found new things to interest me and take my mind off it all
[B]Well that certainly qualifies as the WTF? moment of the year...
:confused: [/B][/QUOTE]
Isn't it nice that it's the one time when that sort of comment is apt? Now, in a couple of weeks, if you call something the "WTF? moment of the year," folks will think you're talking out of your butt. But now... now, you can actually say with authority that this is the top bizarre, confusing event of the year.
I have posted some more comments.
[URL=http://www.livejournal.com/users/darth_angelus/50859.html]Link[/URL]
Worf
[B]Believe me "WTF" was one of my initially thoughts as well.
I have posted some more comments.
[URL=http://www.livejournal.com/users/darth_angelus/50859.html]Link[/URL]
Worf [/B][/QUOTE]
Here's my opinion, And remember, i dont really KNOW either of you, So please dont feel that i'm defending Phi or her actions, or attacking you or your actions, i'm just posting my opinion from what i've read.
Your comments seem less of a true feeling, than the bitter retort of a jilted lover, I dont know if you've heard of the stages of grief (some say 7 stages, other 5) but at the moment you seem to be smack dab in the middle of stage 2, anger/resentment
My advice, dont post any more blame filled posts in your blog, i can tell you from experience that its going to do 2 things, 1, if she reads them, make her wonder why she was ever with you in the first place, 2, make you angry as you write them, and 3, once the hurt goes away, make you upset/depressed that you said the things you did,
None of that is good for either of you.
Again, not really knowing either of you, please dont see this as any type of personal attack or anything of the like, i've just found that sometimes, the only way to face things like this, is to have someone show you point blank what they think is going on.
and believe me, i've been there personally. Best advice i can give, as hard as it may be, dont dwell on it, Go out, have a drink with a mate, do something you enjoy, dont let anger fester, it'll just make things worse in the end.
Hope some of this made the slightest bit of sense.
[B]I still feel like I have lost an important part of my life and I will do for some time.
[/B][/QUOTE]
Worf: I know that feeling. When I got dumped by my last serious gf, it was as if the whole world had gone black and white. I had feelings that she didnt have, so it felt like she had died, in a sense, for me, she had. I was dealing with a loss..
Some days, I still do. I still love her (its been three years soon), and I cant tell you the feelings of loss will go over completely, but at least they dont hurt anymore.
Anyway. Good luck. Its good to have things to do. Even though they might not feel as meaningful anymore.
/hug
But on the other hand, I have seen how other people have reacted to the news.
I don't feel bitter, or angry and I don't feel like I'm trying to blame it on anything. I'm just trying to understand things, because it still doesn't quite make sense to me. I am trying to look at the situation carefully and not let my obvious feelings get in the way.
Why? Because sooner or later, I will have another relationship with someone and it would be good to know some of the warning signs to look for.
I'm trying to explain my thoughts as clearly as I can but...it's difficult sometimes.
I don't think I will make any more posts about it though, anything else I write will be kept to myself.
Thankyou everyone for your support, it has been difficult to get through and I know I'm not out of it yet.
Worf