Biggles<font color=#AAFFAA>The Man Without a Face</font>
[QUOTE][i]Originally posted by TheEXone [/i]
[B]It depends on what you do, jut because you get with many girls doesn't nessesarily make you a player. Its about wether you just have fun with chicks, and they understand its just that, or if you get with them by manipulating their feelings and then kicking them to the curb when you're done. Guys that do that can really mess up girls either turning them into sluts
or scaring them emotionaly and becoming distrustfull of all guys.
Which one are you? [/B][/QUOTE]
I once knew a guy (haven't seen him in a couple of years) who was a real manipulator. He had a "policy" where he wouldn't go out with a girl for longer than 6 months. At exactly 6 months, he would dump them, no matter what. The worst thing was that all these girls would fall for him, one after another, despite knowing this. Then, they would all complain when they got dumped at the 6 month mark. I could never understand why they didn't figure out that would happen when he made his intentions so well known. So this guy basically went around choosing girls, having them fall for him, them dumping them after 6 months and moving on to the next one.
ShadowDancerWhen I say, "Why aye, gadgie," in my heart I say, "Och aye, laddie."London, UK
yeah, i know a few like that. one in particular started going out with a good friend of mine, who i see kinda as a little sister, the after about 3 months decided that he would dump her so he could go back out with one of his ex's. needless to say i was ready to organise his execution, but as she pointed out it would be more trouble than it would be worth.
[QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Biggles [/i]
[B]I once knew a guy (haven't seen him in a couple of years) who was a real manipulator. He had a "policy" where he wouldn't go out with a girl for longer than 6 months. At exactly 6 months, he would dump them, no matter what. The worst thing was that all these girls would fall for him, one after another, despite knowing this. Then, they would all complain when they got dumped at the 6 month mark. I could never understand why they didn't figure out that would happen when he made his intentions so well known. So this guy basically went around choosing girls, having them fall for him, them dumping them after 6 months and moving on to the next one. [/B][/QUOTE]
So he told them that he would dump them in 6months? Or did he just say it would be an open relationship type thing? God that sucks, well it does if they all fell for him, and he prolly lied and told them he loved them too.
A genuine crash course to catastrophy, actually... fell in love with my best friend who just happens to be on the other side of the country and happily dating another guy. Went there for a week, held back on nothing, told her exactly what I had on my mind, what I felt, face to face. And saw the whole thing through. Of that, I'm proud, not many guys seem to able to do that nowadays. During that time we shared a few hours I could have happily spent my eternity in and later having talked things through and cried, we broke up as friends. Although I think both of us knew at that time that we wouldn't be seeing each other ever again... In any case, nothing was left unsaid and I regret nothing.
But why does it seem to me that the only times my emotions wake up to defend themselves, they only manage to take away the people I've ever been able to call my genuine, true friends? So far I've had 2. Now I have one... and for that, I grieve.
And '[URL=http://koti.mbnet.fi/cijk/Poets%20of%20the%20Fall%20-%20Late%20Goodbye.mp3]Late Goodbye[/URL]' by [url=http://www.poetsofthefall.com]Poets Of The Fall[/URL] just turned from a beautiful theme song to a real life experience for me. The lyrics match to the letter. Even the devil has a face for me now... Don't think I can listen to the song ever again without crying.
[i]I grieve not the absence of love, but the lack of all things human. [/i]
ShadowDancerWhen I say, "Why aye, gadgie," in my heart I say, "Och aye, laddie."London, UK
I wouldnt really object if I broke up with my "girlfriend". After certain stuff has gone through first ofcourse. Wouldnt want my thai vacation to be all waste ya know.
Thanks for the sympathies, people. I appreciate it.
I'm not experienced enough in anything to feel like I could give any truly wise advice, but to repeat a cliche in the hope that it would benefit someone in the future and again from a firsthand experience:
Feelings are a drag when they're not met as you'd hope they would be but if you still don't try your wings with 'em, you'll end up suffering more than you possibly could if you acted on 'em. "What if" is the worst possible kind of mental prison. Don't get caged.
Speaking your mind is something that no-one can do unless they get burned badly once, unfortunately. But in case someone has the ability to do that before getting scorched...
When you're old enough to separate real love from lust, love becomes the perfect excuse to say and do almost anything. You're not creating the feeling, you're a victim of it. Everyone knows this, sometimes you just can't help it. The victim can't choose what is being done to him/her, he/she can only choose what to do about it. Stating what you know is real in your heart carries no drawbacks. None. If you present your case without a doubt in your head, you're doing something that most people are jealous of. And as such, those mature enough to know what it takes can only take it seriously. If you get laughed at, you're talking to a child or to a person not worth your time.
No matter how bad I feel at the moment I know I'd feel a hell of a lot worse if I hadn't done what I did. So... if it helps anyone; When you can't fight it anymore, you can just as well turn direction, run with it and knock down some doors with it while you're at it.
Knowing that she knows that I did and said all I could is... well, not enough to get me back on my feet without the long heartache but it speeds up the process. Hell of a lot.
Yes it would have been like regret and wishing you'd done this or that is a terrible thing. And you done the best you could. And it will lessen in time even though you probably can't imagine it right now.
[QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Messiah [/i]
[B]My father. Never heard anyone else use it. [/B][/QUOTE]
Wow! Sounds like your dad was abit of a romantic and very wise. :)
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[B]Knowing Refa, the latter. [/B][/QUOTE]
I dont think I've got the looks for that...
anyway. Here's another match from the same profile as the finnish girl. I think she's pretty good.. love her keywords atleast. Lot in common. heh
[url]http://meetme.hotornot.com/r/?emid=KUGZEQE[/url]
[B]It depends on what you do, jut because you get with many girls doesn't nessesarily make you a player. Its about wether you just have fun with chicks, and they understand its just that, or if you get with them by manipulating their feelings and then kicking them to the curb when you're done. Guys that do that can really mess up girls either turning them into sluts
or scaring them emotionaly and becoming distrustfull of all guys.
Which one are you? [/B][/QUOTE]
I once knew a guy (haven't seen him in a couple of years) who was a real manipulator. He had a "policy" where he wouldn't go out with a girl for longer than 6 months. At exactly 6 months, he would dump them, no matter what. The worst thing was that all these girls would fall for him, one after another, despite knowing this. Then, they would all complain when they got dumped at the 6 month mark. I could never understand why they didn't figure out that would happen when he made his intentions so well known. So this guy basically went around choosing girls, having them fall for him, them dumping them after 6 months and moving on to the next one.
[B]I once knew a guy (haven't seen him in a couple of years) who was a real manipulator. He had a "policy" where he wouldn't go out with a girl for longer than 6 months. At exactly 6 months, he would dump them, no matter what. The worst thing was that all these girls would fall for him, one after another, despite knowing this. Then, they would all complain when they got dumped at the 6 month mark. I could never understand why they didn't figure out that would happen when he made his intentions so well known. So this guy basically went around choosing girls, having them fall for him, them dumping them after 6 months and moving on to the next one. [/B][/QUOTE]
So he told them that he would dump them in 6months? Or did he just say it would be an open relationship type thing? God that sucks, well it does if they all fell for him, and he prolly lied and told them he loved them too.
A genuine crash course to catastrophy, actually... fell in love with my best friend who just happens to be on the other side of the country and happily dating another guy. Went there for a week, held back on nothing, told her exactly what I had on my mind, what I felt, face to face. And saw the whole thing through. Of that, I'm proud, not many guys seem to able to do that nowadays. During that time we shared a few hours I could have happily spent my eternity in and later having talked things through and cried, we broke up as friends. Although I think both of us knew at that time that we wouldn't be seeing each other ever again... In any case, nothing was left unsaid and I regret nothing.
But why does it seem to me that the only times my emotions wake up to defend themselves, they only manage to take away the people I've ever been able to call my genuine, true friends? So far I've had 2. Now I have one... and for that, I grieve.
And '[URL=http://koti.mbnet.fi/cijk/Poets%20of%20the%20Fall%20-%20Late%20Goodbye.mp3]Late Goodbye[/URL]' by [url=http://www.poetsofthefall.com]Poets Of The Fall[/URL] just turned from a beautiful theme song to a real life experience for me. The lyrics match to the letter. Even the devil has a face for me now... Don't think I can listen to the song ever again without crying.
[i]I grieve not the absence of love, but the lack of all things human. [/i]
Sorry to hear that man, but at least you strung the bow...
[QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Messiah [/i]
[B]There is a very good saying: 'Better to have broken the bow than to never have strung it'
Sorry to hear that man, but at least you strung the bow... [/B][/QUOTE]
Thats lovely. D'you know who said it?
I'm not experienced enough in anything to feel like I could give any truly wise advice, but to repeat a cliche in the hope that it would benefit someone in the future and again from a firsthand experience:
Feelings are a drag when they're not met as you'd hope they would be but if you still don't try your wings with 'em, you'll end up suffering more than you possibly could if you acted on 'em. "What if" is the worst possible kind of mental prison. Don't get caged.
Speaking your mind is something that no-one can do unless they get burned badly once, unfortunately. But in case someone has the ability to do that before getting scorched...
When you're old enough to separate real love from lust, love becomes the perfect excuse to say and do almost anything. You're not creating the feeling, you're a victim of it. Everyone knows this, sometimes you just can't help it. The victim can't choose what is being done to him/her, he/she can only choose what to do about it. Stating what you know is real in your heart carries no drawbacks. None. If you present your case without a doubt in your head, you're doing something that most people are jealous of. And as such, those mature enough to know what it takes can only take it seriously. If you get laughed at, you're talking to a child or to a person not worth your time.
No matter how bad I feel at the moment I know I'd feel a hell of a lot worse if I hadn't done what I did. So... if it helps anyone; When you can't fight it anymore, you can just as well turn direction, run with it and knock down some doors with it while you're at it.
Knowing that she knows that I did and said all I could is... well, not enough to get me back on my feet without the long heartache but it speeds up the process. Hell of a lot.
[B]There is a very good saying: 'Better to have broken the bow than to never have strung it'
Sorry to hear that man, but at least you strung the bow... [/B][/QUOTE]
Pretty much the same thing as 'better to have loved and lost, than to never have loved at all.'
[QUOTE][i]Originally posted by Messiah [/i]
[B]My father. Never heard anyone else use it. [/B][/QUOTE]
Wow! Sounds like your dad was abit of a romantic and very wise. :)