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JohnnyOnTheSpotJohnnyOnTheSpot Banned by request
in Zocalo v2.0
Have caught a friend cheating...I realize this now because I've been excluded from activities with one of my best friends. He never acts this ackward around me, and all of sudden I caught a glimpse of guilt on the other friends face. She looked very guilty. And it just struck me now that they might be cheating on another guy friend.

So the question is am I paranoid or just compulsive?

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  • ShadowDancerShadowDancer When I say, "Why aye, gadgie," in my heart I say, "Och aye, laddie." London, UK
    Or compulsively paranoid? :p
  • JohnnyOnTheSpotJohnnyOnTheSpot Banned by request
    I was actually thinking about hiring a PI...But I asked the friend directly and he said "I don't want to talk about it."
  • ChaosedChaosed Ranger
    To tell or stay out of it, that is the question.
  • StingrayStingray Elite Ranger
    Choosing between sitting on a rock or a hard place. I don't think there's an easy way out of this. Not talking about it is not going to help. The word "friend" is often misused. As the saying goes, and I misquote: "A friend will help you move. A real friend will help you move a body."

    So what kind of friend is it? In the end it's your decision if you care enough.
  • JohnnyOnTheSpotJohnnyOnTheSpot Banned by request
    well the friend thats cheating i know very well the friend thats being abused not so well. Its been bothering my conscience and i had a dream about it last night but its not my place to judge these people i don't think. I am staying out of it. I hope they stop whatever their doing.
  • Space GhostSpace Ghost Elite Ranger
    IMHO (and, of course, you do what you feel is right) if I were in your situation, I would stay out of it. Getting in the middle of relationships is never a good thing.

    If you must get involved, perhaps you can discreetly and tactfully talk to the friend who is cheating... but I have to say that I still think it's a really bad idea to get involved at all.

    But again, you do what you feel is right.
  • Entil'ZhaEntil'Zha I see famous people
    Getting involved can only end badly for you, the most likely result, is they never speak to eachother, and neither of them ever speak to you.
  • A2597A2597 Fanboy
    Since it's bugging you, talk to the friend that's cheating.

    He doesn't owe you an explanation, but you owe it to your other friend to find out whats going on, and if the person he's cheating with is someone he's getting serious with, he does need to tell your other friend.

    I'd want to know if I were being cheated on, And if he won't tell her, someone needs to. But talk to your friend first and get the story. The fact that he's guilty about it may mean it's something else, or just a drunken mistake that they both regret.
  • JohnnyOnTheSpotJohnnyOnTheSpot Banned by request
    i think its rather a long term think but again im not getting involved. She relatively affluent in a specific news organization if evidence of her cheating got out she'd probably have to resign. Im not in the business of ruining lives though and i want to keep my friendship with the accused. We've been close for years it would probably finally put the nail in the coffin between both of us if I ever told on him. I just don't have the guts or the will to do it.

    I told the friend that if he wants to talk about it I'm here. The morale thing to do however is probably tell on the guy. I really empathize with the victim because hes been cheated on many times before and I've experienced what hes been through.
  • DarthCaligulaDarthCaligula Elite Ranger
    Sounds like you shouldn't trust them, I say.
  • MessiahMessiah Failed Experiment
    [QUOTE=JohnnyOnTheSpot;171763]i think its rather a long term think but again im not getting involved. She relatively affluent in a specific news organization if evidence of her cheating got out she'd probably have to resign.[/QUOTE]

    I dont want to come off as a total jerk, but is it often this way in the us? that personal issues reflect on your professional life. Over here, you couldnt be fired because you were cheating, youd have to mess up professionally for you boss to be able to legally fire you.
  • JohnnyOnTheSpotJohnnyOnTheSpot Banned by request
    its the effect of media exposure and pressure. I think normally no one would not have to quit their job because of personal issues like so. But shes pretty high up there on the echelon and its likely that being a professional journalist she would lose her career because of dishonesty. There would likely be a small news conference covering the story at least the local news in the school that she works for. Why are people so fucked up?
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