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JohnnyOnTheSpot
Banned by request
in Zocalo v2.0
Ok now I know this is probably a stupid question. But have any of you successfully rendered an internet dating relationship? I recently befriended someone through Yahoo! Personals don't know how most of you deal with internet based relationships. But I get it the idea is not to take it to seriously otherwise your gonna get burned. Any opinions?
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It's all about making the right connection. There's lots of people out there, many of which are poor matches. You just have to spend time weeding through the wrongs to find the rights. Or hope they harass you to no end. :p
Worf
I'm not so sure. Simple biology gets in the way. The human mind and body need some sort of physical link. While the emotional connection can be forged to some extent via online conversation, it then becomes a matter of maintaining and growing it, and that's where the trouble really begins. Even if the first stages of the relationship are smooth and things go well, the distance prevents the body from being in a situation where it experiences some form of reaction to the pheromones normally poured out in buckets through physical intimacy. Second, there's the lack thereof, which appears to be critical to forming a truly strong bond between both parties. You may feel like it's proper from your own perspective, but there is an exceptionally strong chance that both parties' bodies are saying otherwise.
Love is nothing more than a chemical dance occurring between typically two parties. It isn't limited to gender, mindset, or lifestyle in much of any way, but it is [B]significantly[/B] aided by proximity. Cupid's arrow is a bunch of hormones shooting down the bloodstream in an attempt to form a more permanent attachment of these two parties, and the best way to do this is through the real world. Short-term visits over a long duration don't provide enough exposure for the vast majority of people to properly develop the required chemical circumstance to actually develop the long-term attachment. This takes [B]years[/B] of time, enormous amounts of exposure and even then, the two need to be compatible. Distance makes achieving this deeper connection near impossible. It doesn't even begin to satisfy the underlying desire for intimacy. Modern communications technology can aid this, but it is far from a replacement.
Of course, this isn't to say that such a relationship cannot exist. Exceptions are always there, but the chance of finding two people with the proper psychological and physiological configuration to successfully carry out a long-term, long-distance relationship is rare. It requires an enormous amount of chemistry in the far less substantial (whether you want to agree with that or not, it's true) less physical areas for the relationship in its first five years of life to survive.
But my experiences with falling in love with girls online hasnt been stellar.. even tho.. well... Its life, would be same if had met them in real life first.