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Ethical Dilemma

Space GhostSpace Ghost Elite Ranger
in Zocalo v2.0
My great aunt (my Grandmother's sister) passed away this morning. She was 94 years old and hadn't been in good health for several years. I was not particularly close to her as she, quite frankly, was not a very pleasant person (I know, a terrible thing to say). I also hadn't seen her for several years because she was in a nursing home and, again I wasn't close. But the fact of the matter is, she is family.

My dilemma: Her viewing is on Thursday and I am planning on attending. But her funeral is on Friday and I have already committed to other plans that day. My future brother-in-law's company outing is that day and I told him I would attend. If it were just a "thing" I would cancel without a doubt. But my $80 to attend has been already paid. Going to both doesn't seem possible. If it was my Grandmother I would obviously cancel, but it's a great aunt (and my Grandmother has been dead for over ten years). I suppose I'm more concerned about letting my brother-in-law (and good friend) down than the $80. I know he's in a pinch and was kinda expecting me to be there.

I don't know what to do. Any thoughts?

Comments

  • StingrayStingray Elite Ranger
    I don't see a problem, I mean, unless you believe in ghosts. :D
  • SeafroggysSeafroggys Ranger
    Go to the company thing. Death shouldn't change how much we respect someone.
  • C_MonC_Mon A Genuine Sucker
    I would say that in the end it's all up to you and how you feel. Do the thing you'd be regretting the least in the future.
  • CurZCurZ Resident Hippy
    It's not a terrible thing to tell the truth about a person just because they happen to have died.

    Anyways, I don't see the problem of ethics here. It's your life, you do as you please. There are no obligations that are forced upon you, there are only the ones you accept and those that you don't.
  • ShadowDancerShadowDancer When I say, "Why aye, gadgie," in my heart I say, "Och aye, laddie." London, UK
    I'd say go to you're future bother-in-law's thing. To be blunt, its not as if your great aunt is going to miss you at her funeral.
  • Lord RefaLord Refa Creepy, but in a good way
    Screw the aunt.
  • MessiahMessiah Failed Experiment
    Go with your brother in law. As Seafroggys (Croxis avatar?) said, death shouldnt chage the way you see someone, and you should honour the living while alive the dead can be honoured in their own time.
  • WORFWORF The Burninator
    You're going to the viewing, I'd say that's enough really since you weren't that close to her.

    Ultimately the choice is yours, so you should do what you think is the right thing to do.

    Worf
  • Vorlons in my HeadVorlons in my Head The Vorlons told me to.
    Just don't go to the funeral. I've been through similar situations with distant relatives that die. A long time ago I decided there's no reason for me to see in death someone I never really knew in life.
  • TridentTrident Ranger
    I've had plenty of experience in this field, and I say, screw the relative. If she was close and nice, I would go. But in your case, I say go for the outing. There will be plenty more to go to.
  • Space GhostSpace Ghost Elite Ranger
    Thanks for the input, everyone. I decided that I'm not going to the funeral, just the viewing. My Mom doesn't seem to think it will be an issue, so I'm not worried.

    Thanks again!
  • Entil'ZhaEntil'Zha I see famous people
    As long as the family doesn't have big issues with it, definately don't go, I'd only say to go if it woul dcause a lot of friction in the family.
  • CurZCurZ Resident Hippy
    Refa, you've found your perfect avatar :D
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